First I have to say that my feminism is not about defying gender roles. If you want to, great. If not, great. There is nothing wrong with women that have traditionally feminine traits or occupations and there’s nothing wrong with women having masculine traits/occupations. The problem is that feminine traits/occupations are seen as subordinate to masculine traits/occupations.
That being said, I really don’t think that sororities (especially dphie) enforce traditional gender roles. One of the main focuses is professional and educational development. You’re required to go to study hours and personal development events, and if you don’t maintain a good GPA, you’ll be kicked out. Many of the girls are also pursuing traditionally masculine careers (my roommate who is in DphiE is an engineering major) and hold all sorts of leadership positions on campus.
What I’m guessing you have a problem with though is that you think they recruit based on looks. This is simply not true (for mine atleast). DphiE recruits on values and doesn’t give a damn about how you look. There a girls of all races (impressive for CMU), body types, heights, hair colors, and with weights ranging from like 90lbs to like 250lbs. Some wear make up, some never wear makeup. Some like to dress up, some show up in sweats. This is literally the most diverse and accepting group I’ve been in, INCLUDING THE TWO FEMINIST GROUPS I AM IN.
In fact, I think feminists need to take some hints from sorority women. The thing about being in a sorority is that you SUPPORT OTHER WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT. Even if you don’t particularly like a sister, you still want her to succeed, will be there for her, and support her. This is not the case in most feminist spaces where we rip each other (and others not in out circles) apart for differing views, when what we should be doing is building each other up.
The only super feminine thing they do is make lots of crafts, and fuck you, I like making crafts. Haha.
Also, our charity is an anorexia awareness organization so … Yeah.